RefloryAI parenting coach for iPhone
The AI parenting coach that gets to know your child
Had a hard moment with your child? Tell Reflory what happened, by voice or text. It asks a couple of focused questions and gives you a calm reflection: what happened, what may be going on inside your child, and one sentence you can actually say next time.
For iPhone. In English and German. Reflory Plus from €34.99 a year.
How it works
Two minutes after a hard moment
It fits into the pause after bedtime, the minute in the hallway, the drive home.
Tell it what happened
Tap the button and talk, or type if the kids are finally asleep. Messy is fine. The recording is deleted once it has been turned into text.
Answer a couple of questions
Reflory only asks what changes the advice, like whether she knew you were about to leave. Tap an answer or skip the rest.
Read your reflection
Clear cards in the same order every time. They end with an idea for next time and words for repair.
The reflection
Not a wall of AI text. Six calm cards.
A real example from the app, after leaving the playground turned into a meltdown over shoes.
What happened
Leaving the playground turned into a meltdown over shoes. You were running late, and she was deep in play.
What may have been going on A possible read
Stopping in the middle of play may have felt sudden. At this age, ending something fun can feel like losing it.
What you handled well
You stayed with her and got everyone home safely without adding threats.
What you can do now
Later today, sit with her for a minute and name it: leaving was hard, and you were having so much fun.
Try next time
Give a five minute and a one minute warning before leaving. Let her choose: one more slide, or say goodbye to the swings.
A sentence you could use
“You were having so much fun, and I said stop right away. That was hard. Next time I will tell you earlier.”
Built around your child
It gets to know your child, and you stay in charge
Every reflection teaches Reflory a little more about your child. Over time it spots patterns, like “switching activities is hardest when she is tired”, and asks whether they are true.
- A private profile for each child, with age and what often helps
- Patterns you can confirm or reject, nothing becomes a fact on its own
- One bad day never rewrites who your child is
Every morning
A small thought for your child, every morning
Each morning Reflory sends one short, personal thought for your child, made from your own reflections: a sentence to say, something that has worked before, or a small moment together. With more than one child, they take turns.
- Written from what you shared, not from a generic tip list
- Never mentions a conflict on your lock screen
- You choose the time, or turn it off in Settings
Coaching in your style
No rulebook. No lecture. Your values.
At the start, Reflory asks what matters to you as a parent and what usually happens when things escalate. It picks up your approach and coaches you in it. You can change it any time.
- Gentle parenting
- Attachment focused
- Emotion coaching
- Warm and firm
Made for parents who like gentle, attachment focused parenting and want support in the hard moment itself, without paying for a course every month.
For the moments that matter
- Tantrums and meltdowns
- When you yelled and want to make it right
- Power struggles and limits
- Bedtime battles
- Sibling fights
- Screen time drama
Private by design
Your family’s hardest moments deserve the most careful handling.
Voice recordings are deleted
Your recording is turned into text and then deleted automatically. Only the transcript stays, and you can edit or delete it.
No ads, no data sold
Reflory has no ads and never sells your data. What you say about your child is never sent to analytics.
Not used to train AI
Your family’s words are not used to train AI models unless you explicitly opt in. That option is off by default.
Delete everything in one place
Export your data, or delete your account and every reflection, right in Settings.
An honest note. Reflections are written by AI (Google Gemini). AI can be wrong, and what your child might feel is a possible read, not a diagnosis. Reflory is a tool for reflection, not therapy, and it does not replace your pediatrician or professional help.
If you or your child may be in danger, call your local emergency number (112 in the EU, 911 in the US, 999 in the UK). If something you describe sounds like danger, Reflory points you to help instead of simply coaching on.
Pricing
One plan, two ways to pay
Reflory is a subscription app. There is no free version, because every reflection costs real AI computing time. You can cancel any time in your Apple ID settings.
Reflory Plus yearly
€34.99
per year, less than €3 a month. Preselected in the app.
Reflory Plus weekly
€3.99
per week. Flexible, cancel any time.
Prices in Germany. In the US: $29.99 a year or $3.99 a week. Apple converts prices for other countries.
Guides
Guides for hard parenting moments
Practical, sourced and written for tired parents. There are more guides in German.
- Toddler tantrums: what to do in the moment and afterWhat helps during a meltdown, what matters afterwards and when a tantrum is more than a phase.
- I yelled at my child: how to repair it and yell lessWhat to do right after yelling, how a real apology sounds and how to yell less often.
- Wutanfall beim Kleinkind: Was tun? (in German)Was im Moment hilft, was danach wichtig ist und wann ein Wutanfall mehr ist als eine Phase.
- Trotzphase: Wann sie beginnt, wie lange sie dauert und was hilft (in German)Wann die Autonomiephase beginnt, wann sie vorbei ist und welche Tipps im Alltag tragen.
- Kind angeschrien: Was jetzt hilft und wie du es wiedergutmachst (in German)Was du nach dem Schreien tun kannst, wie eine gute Entschuldigung klingt und wie du seltener laut wirst.
- Geschwisterstreit: Was tun, wann eingreifen und was ist normal? (in German)Was normal ist, wann du eingreifen solltest und wie du schlichtest, ohne Richter zu spielen.
- Bedürfnisorientiert Grenzen setzen: liebevoll und klar (in German)Warum bedürfnisorientiert nicht grenzenlos heißt und wie liebevolle, klare Grenzen klingen.
Questions parents ask
Is Reflory a therapist or a replacement for professional help?
No. Reflory is a tool for reflecting on everyday parenting moments. It is not therapy, not medical advice and not a crisis service. If you are worried about your child’s development or behaviour, or about how you are coping, talk to your pediatrician, family doctor or a family counselling service. In an emergency, call your local emergency number.
What does Reflory cost?
Reflory Plus costs €3.99 per week or €34.99 per year in Germany (in the US $3.99 per week or $29.99 per year; Apple converts prices for other countries). There is no free version, because every reflection costs real AI computing time. The subscription renews automatically and you can cancel it any time in your Apple ID settings.
How does the AI work, and who sees my data?
Your recording is transcribed and then deleted. The transcript and a short summary of your child’s profile go through Reflory’s secure backend to the Google Gemini API, which writes the questions and the reflection. Your reflections are private to your account, there is no feed and no sharing. Your family’s data is not used to train AI models unless you explicitly opt in. All details are in the privacy policy.
Which parenting style does Reflory follow?
Yours. During onboarding Reflory asks what matters to you and how you react when things escalate. From that it picks up your approach, for example gentle, attachment focused, emotion coaching or warm and firm, and coaches you in it. You can change it any time in Settings. Reflory never shames you and never suggests hitting, threats or punishments that hurt.
How old should my child be?
You create a profile for each child with their age, and Reflory adjusts its questions and ideas to it. Reflory was built with toddlers, preschool and primary school children in mind, but you can reflect on a child of any age.
Is Reflory available in German?
Yes. The app is fully available in English and German, and the AI answers in the language of the app. There is a German version of this website too.
Is there an Android version?
Not yet. Reflory is made for iPhone and also runs on iPad.
Made by one dad in Berlin
I’m Caspar, an indie developer from Berlin. I build Reflory on my own because I wanted a coach that actually knows my child, not another list of generic tips. If something feels off or you miss a feature, tell me on X at @casparbuilds or by email. I read everything.
The next hard moment doesn’t have to stay stuck in your head.
About two minutes, somewhere quiet. Reflory is ready when you are.